When it comes to first dates, the impression you make is of the utmost importance. Before you can expect your potential love interest to invest their time and heart in order to know the “real” you, you need to show him or her that you are worth the risk by dressing presentably and engaging in thoughtful conversation. Clothes, conversation and behavior are the major elements that need fine tuning before you step out with confidence on a first date.
Clothes
The clothing you select for your first date will depend a great deal on where it is you are planning to go. Fancy dinner warrants slacks and a button-down shirt or sweater for men and a cute dress or blouse/slacks option for women. Leave your jeans at home if you are looking to impress. Casual outings allow for jeans but be sure to dress it up a bit with a well-chosen tailored shirt for men or a cute sundress or jeans/sweater combo for women. If you have no idea where your date is going to take you, go casual with a chic edge. Nice jeans, a sassy blouse and sexy but comfortable shoes for women work nicely on “surprise” dates and nice jeans with a button designer shirt and nice shoes do well for men.
Conversation
Many men and women complain that the biggest problem with first dates is their partner talks too much about themselves instead asking thoughtful questions. One big reason for this may be that both men and women can get nervous on first dates and try too hard to impress their prospective love interest. You may be wise to come up with a few questions before you pick up your date. Make these questions general but genuine. Asking about your date’s favorite bands, books or public figures is safe but nonetheless effective. Be sure that you are really listening to your date’s responses instead of thinking ahead to your next question so that your date feels heard and appreciated. Share about your own likes and dislikes, as well, so that your date can get a good feel for who you are and what you spend your time doing.
Behavior
Traditional etiquette should be followed where possible, such as the male pulling out the chairs and opening the doors. It is no longer necessary for the male to order for the female in restaurants or coffee shops, unless she gives you an indication that she would prefer it. Beyond this, one great rule of thumb is to treat your date as if they are more important than you are. Preferring your date’s needs to your own will help him or her to feel safe. When people feel safe, they are more likely to open up and share who they really are with you. The more real your date can get, the more you will be able to gauge your true compatibility.








