Archive for December, 2009

How to Write an Attractive Dating Profile Headline

Wednesday, December 30th, 2009

She loves your headline

With the recent rise in popularity in online dating websites, many new members are stumped when it comes time to write a catchy and interesting headline for their profile. Learning how to write an online dating profile headline may seem simple, but take a look at any dating website, and you’ll see that even the best educated members of those sites can have trouble coming up with the right line.

While many people settle for a generic catchy line like “Looking for true love” or “Are you the one?”, these lines don’t show anything about their personality or personal interests. Visitors surfing the profiles have little reason to check out those profiles, as they may assume the person behind it is as generic and boring as the headline. Instead, try adding a headline that includes a hint of you, or at least what you’re looking for. If you’re a karaoke fan looking for a fun date, add a headline such as “Think you can beat me at karaoke?” or “Let’s do a duet at karaoke night.”

Avoid sounding desperate at all costs. While dating headlines like “I’ll take anyone!” or “Pick me please, I’m so lonely” may seem like a quick way to get visitors, you’re unlikely to attract anyone worthwhile. It’s also a big turnoff to the confident, attractive, intelligent people you’re probably trying to attract. Also, don’t get negative in your headline. It may seem helpful to add “No losers” or something similar, but you can save that for your profile. Many people can be scared off by such an initmidating put off in your headline.

Draw visitors in with a mysterious or alluring headline. When you use a line like “You’ll never guess what I do on the weekends…” visitors will visit your dating profile just to find out. Even if they would have never considered you before, once they read about you they may find you’re exactly what they’re looking for. Or let them know what they’ll get from being your new date or friend. If you’re a particularly good cook, make it clear in your headline.
Once you’ve learned how to write an online dating profile headline that will catch visitors attention, you’ve gone a long way towards meeting new people. A good headline leads to a click on your profile, which hopefully leads to a message. Just getting them to click in the first place is a third of the battle.

Why date young women?

Wednesday, December 30th, 2009

Young woman with older man

More and more these days, older men are looking to younger women to fulfill their needs. There are many benefits of this for both sides and there are a few cons, as well. For men out there who are thinking about pursuing younger women, it is worth it to understand exactly what women are looking for in this type of relationship. It is also important to understand the implications that go along with this sort of thing.

For men, the benefits should be pretty evident. As you get older, you start really feeling your age. Having someone around who is younger and more energetic can help you get more out of life. It can help keep you young and avoid falling into some of the habits that tend to plague quality of life for people who enter old age. Younger women are sharp and they tend to bring out the best in you. For men who like to stay sociable as they get older, younger women are able to open doors to a vibrant social scene and they are typically more willing to go out and have spontaneous fun.

Women generally seek out older men because they are attracted to the wisdom, the achievement, and the stability that older men bring. Women see older men as being wise and these men bring some unique challenges for women. Though there are some women who enter these relationships with ulterior motives, most of them are simply looking for someone who is a little bit more mature. This can happen for women after they have tough experiences with younger, more immature men.

When talking about the cons of one of these relationships, you have to think that an age gap can create some cultural strife. Older men and younger women tend to see the world differently and in many instances, they disagree on important moral points. This is something that couples would have to work through, but if they can get past the differences, there are lots of great possibilities that are available. For men, it’s a way to add more life to your life and that is always a good thing.

Benefits of Online Dating

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

Benefits of online dating

For many people, online dating is an appealing alternative to other, more traditional means of meeting a mate. Why? Because online dating takes much of the guesswork out of meeting people with whom you have things in common and have the potential to truly connect with. It is also a good solution for people who are very shy or just plain socially awkward.

Why Online Dating is Better than Other Methods of Meeting People

Some methods of meeting potential partners, such as clubs or bars, are difficult because it is hard to know what the other person is seeking in terms of companionship. It is common for relationships started in such a way to be short-term, as it is a difficult environment in which to become truly acquainted with someone. Let’s face it, when it comes to dating, going to the bar is much like picking out a cut of beef.

Dating people introduced by friends and family is another common way couples meet. However in the event that the romance is ill-fated, the situation has the potential to put stress on friendships or cause rifts between family members. Imagine that your cousin introduces you to her best friend, whom you begin dating. Months later you have a messy breakup and in the heat of battle say a bunch of horrible things that you can’t take back. When it gets back to your cousin, she might be upset about it, if not downright infuriated. And some people hold grudges for a very, very long time.

Compatibility Matching in Online Dating

Many online dating websites have a survey including questions about favorite passtimes, views on various issues, and other questions of this type in order to match up couples. Because of this, seeking a partner online means you are more likely to be matched with someone who has similar interests, wants and needs in a relationship.

Whether you seek a casual relationship or you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, online dating is a way to avoid spending months or even years in relationships doomed to fail because of different life goals, religious beliefs, and other factors that can affect the compatibility of a couple.

Online Dating for the Shy or Socially Awkward

Everybody knows at least one person who is really, really nice, but seems doomed to find love because of their complete inability to function in social situations. For the shy and socially awkward, one of the best benefits of online dating is the ability to take things slowly and casually in an online environment, where there is much less pressure than meeting people face-to-face. After opening up and getting to know a potential partner online, meeting them in person will likely be easier because you will have an idea of what to expect!

While there are those who still prefer the “old-fashioned” ways of meeting people, online dating is becoming increasingly popular largely because of these benefits.

First Date Etiquette

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

How NOT to act on a first date

Have you often been stunned into silence by the manners of your date? A first date is the most important date because the old adage is quite true; there is just no way around it, first impressions will be the lasting impression. We know you learned everything you need to know from your mama, but let’s go ahead and cover a few basics just in case you have forgotten some of them. By following these highly advanced rules of dating, you will be sure to be an expert in first date etiquette.

First of all, if you are a man, you know what to do. That’s right, eyes off the cleavage and on the face. We all know it’s difficult when those things are just calling to you to admire them, but let the lady know you actually are interested in what she has to say and not focused only on the way her buttons are straining on her blouse. Stop wishing they would pop off and give you a more revealing view and look her in the eye, nod and smile. Another important thing-remember her name. At the end of the date when you ask for her phone number and you ask her “Do you spell Christy with a C or a K?” she is going to stalk out. Much later on in the night when you are alone and without a phone number, you will recall her name was Tabitha.

For you eager women out there don’t bring up marriage and the future four children you can’t wait to have. Your biological clock may be ticking so loud that you will have trouble hearing the waiter ask you what you would like to drink, but your date will be out of his chair and hailing a taxi as soon as you bring it up. It’s also never okay to tell him how you open up when you get really drunk. He is not impressed by your ability to be candid only when intoxicated. Though it may seem exciting to you, your date does not look forward to holding your hair after you have once again proven you cannot hold your alcohol. And if you can hold your alcohol, he doesn’t want a girl who will drink away his paycheck.

Follow these very simple suggestions. It’s not rocket science and it’s not a war. Be pleasant and stay sober…for the first date, at least.

Love At First Sight?

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

Love at first sight

I would imagine that everyone is familiar with the overwhelming rush of love at first sight, but in this day of online dating websites and digital classified ads, the question of “love at first sight” pops into my mind as a more desirable scenario. Is it possible to feel that same rush of anticipation when you first connect with someone on the Internet compared to what is felt in the tangible world? It is all a matter of who you ask, but I believe love at first sight is a real phenomenon.

Because I am inherently shy, I have decided to dabble in online dating in an effort to act outside-the-box of convention. The process involves checking out pictures and reading profiles, and I know I have felt some degree of infatuation through encountering the digital images of a person. When you see someone of the opposite sex walking down the street, you are engaged purely by the aesthetics of that person. That is why love at first sight is a bit of a misnomer – it should be referred to attraction at first sight.

A digital image of someone garners that same element of attraction at first sight, but this visual stimulus, coupled with gaining insight into someone’s soul through words, gives love at first sight additional layers and increased significance. I feel like I actually know someone through their profile on a dating website, and there is no doubt that I feel those tell-tail, tingling sensations of instant attraction when I come across a profile that strikes a heartfelt interest.

What makes love at first sight so captivating is that unlike in the physical world where inhibitions limit most people from acting on their feelings of love at first sight, in the virtual world, it is much less of an emotional risk to take at chance and seek a connection. Rejection in the form of a textual message does not burn the psyche nearly as much as a face-to-face “thanks, but no thanks”.

The one aspect of life that haunts most people until the day they die involves questions regarding what could have been? On the Internet, we are able to instantly put that mystery to rest by acting on our desires to reach out and text someone. That is what love at first sight is all about.