Foxy Singles

A person can’t be too careful these days. It seems as if crazies are coming out of the woodwork. The online dating sometimes allows a person to camouflage himself through the barriers of email and/or chat rooms. Are you getting the truth? How will you know? What happens when you finally decide to go on a date? Read on for some signals to watch for.

Tell-tale Signs

Every liar, even the most professional, gives himself away when the lie is told. Each person has a particular “tell”, or sign, which reveals the lie. The better you know a person, the easier it is to know if he or she is lying. However, there are certain “tells” that are fairly easy to pick up if you’re watching carefully. Here are a few:
- Eye contact is broken. If the conversation has been going well, with full eye contact, and then the person looks up and to the left, it’s a lie.
- Voice pitch changes, or the flow of conversation gets faster, or there is too much information in response to a question you’ve asked. If the person suddenly starts talking faster for no reason (for instance, if you have hit on a subject that is exciting to them), it’s probably a lie. If there’s too much information, chances are that they’re trying to overwhelm you with information so that you won’t notice the lie.
- Some will turn away from you (even if only slightly), some will begin to sweat, and some people’s face turns red.

Of course, any of these by themselves happen to all of us at one time or another when we’re not lying, so be cautious and don’t jump to conclusions. Try and verify the lie by asking questions or observing body language.

Body Language

People often consciously choose wording, but body language is more automatic and therefore more reliable to observe. Here are some well-known “tells”:

- Suddenly crossing arms or legs, physically turning away or avoiding you
- Very stiff posture or shifting uncomfortably from one foot to the other
- Putting hands in pockets, clenching a fist, wringing the hands
- Tugging at ears or hair
- The classic: covering the mouth while speaking. Less obvious is touching the mouth, nose, ear or chin.

Question

When in doubt, question. It’s important that you follow up and try to find more “tells”. If you ask questions and a lengthy hesitation follows, they are usually trying to think of the “right” thing to say rather than a natural response. If they get angry before you even finish your question, and/or their response seems too pat, if they tell inconsistent stories, if the details begin to get muddled up, you should beware. You’re probably listening to a lie.

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